Happy Mother’s Day! However, Many Wives Need to Apologize to God, Their Husbands, and Their Children for Not Being the Christian Women, Wives, and Mothers They Should Have Been (Part 4), Daniel Whyte III
Happy Mother’s Day
However, Many Wives Need to Apologize to God, Their Husbands, and Their Children for Not Being the Christian Women, Wives, and Mothers They Should Have Been
The Mother’s Day Rebuke: When Celebration Meets Conviction
Broken Altars at the Kitchen Table: A Wife’s Apology to God, Husband, and Children
More Than Flowers: The Apology and Repentance Some Wives Still Owe Their Families
Mother’s Day Mercy: It’s Not Too Late to Become the Wife Ephesians 5 Describes
From Rebellion to Restoration: A Mother’s Path to God
The Apology That Saved a Marriage: One Wife’s 30-Year Journey to Brokenness and Humility
“That the Word of God Be Not Blasphemed”: A Titus 2 Examination for Every Wife
Wives, Submit Yourselves: The Non-Negotiable Design for Christian Motherhood
Happy Mother’s Day... But Is Your Heart Right With Your Husband?
Woman, What If You’ve Been the Problem? A Hard Question for Christian Wives
A Father’s Day Apology to her Husband, A Mother’s Day Awakening: The Meriqua Whyte Story
Mrs. Meriqua Whyte, the Wife of Daniel Whyte III, Voluntarily Apologized for not Being the Woman, Wife, or Mother she Should Have Been; It is the Letter That Shook up the Judas-Jezebel-Laodicean Church
Foundation Scriptures
Ephesians 5:22–24 (KJV)
“22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. 24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.”
Titus 2:4–5 (KJV)
“4 That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, 5 To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.”
Introduction
Today we gather to honor mothers — women who have carried, nurtured, sacrificed, and loved in ways that words cannot fully measure. Mother’s Day is a worthy occasion, and the love of a godly mother is among the most beautiful reflections of God’s grace that this world knows. Yet the preacher who loves his congregation enough to speak the whole counsel of God must sometimes say what is difficult alongside what is celebratory. Today is such a day. We honor mothers genuinely and without reservation — and precisely because we honor them, we call all wives and mothers to examine themselves before God, to embrace the full standard of womanhood, wifehood, and motherhood that Scripture sets forth.
Point I — God’s Design for the Christian Wife and Mother Is Non-Negotiable
A. The Divine Order of the Home (Ephesians 5:22–24)
The Apostle Paul did not write Ephesians 5 to a culture — he wrote it under the inspiration of the Holy Ghost to the Church of all ages. The instruction is plain: wives are to submit to their own husbands as unto the Lord. This is not a cultural relic to be discarded when society changes its opinions. God does not revise His Word to accommodate the spirit of any age. The husband is designated by God as the head of the wife, mirroring the headship of Christ over the church. This is not a statement of the husband’s superiority in worth or dignity — for in Christ there is neither male nor female as to salvation (Galatians 3:28) — but it is an unambiguous statement of God-ordained order, authority, and function within the home.
The world has waged war against this order. Feminism, cultural rebellion, and a spirit of autonomy have convinced many Christian wives to resist, resent, or quietly circumvent the headship of their husbands. Some have done so openly; others have done so in subtle ways — undermining their husband’s authority with the children, making major decisions unilaterally, refusing counsel, and setting the tone of a home marked by contention rather than submission. God sees it all.
B. The Duties of a Godly Mother (Titus 2:4–5)
Titus 2 gives us God’s portrait of a mature, godly woman. She is sober — self-controlled and clear-minded. She loves her husband and loves her children, not merely as a feeling, but as a disciplined, deliberate commitment. She is discreet, meaning she exercises wise restraint in speech and conduct. She is chaste, morally pure in thought and deed. She is a keeper at home — not confined to the home in a way that forbids all other activity, but one whose primary investment of heart, energy, and priority is in the domestic sphere God has entrusted to her. She is good and obedient to her own husband.
Notice the gravity of the concluding clause: “that the word of God be not blasphemed.” The behavior of Christian wives and mothers is not a private matter. When a woman who claims the name of Christ lives in defiance of these Scriptural standards, the name of God is dishonored. The watching world and the watching church observe whether the Word of God produces what it claims — and the Christian wife who lives contrary to Titus 2 provides ammunition to the mockers.
C. The Call to Repentance and Restoration
Many wives need to apologize. Not as a ritual, and not in shame that has no end — but in the honest, humble acknowledgment before God and before their families that they have fallen short of what God has called them to be. Years of sharp words, years of undermining a husband’s leadership, years of prioritizing career or self-fulfillment above the children God gave them, years of a cold and resistant spirit toward a husband who was trying to lead — these leave marks on a marriage and on children that do not disappear on their own.
The grace of God is sufficient for every failure. First John 1:9 promises that if we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. Mother’s Day is, for some women, an occasion of conviction as much as celebration. And the woman who responds to that conviction with humble repentance — who goes to God first, then to her husband, then to her children and says, “I have not been what I should have been, and by God’s grace I intend to change” — that woman is walking in true godliness. That woman will leave a legacy.
We celebrate you today, mothers. We give honor to whom honor is due. Many of you have loved faithfully, prayed unceasingly, and served sacrificially. We see you, and God sees you.
But to every wife and mother who has heard the Word today and felt the quiet conviction of the Holy Spirit — do not silence it. Do not walk out of this service and return to business as usual. The God who designed you for this high and holy calling is also the God who empowers you to fulfill it. His mercies are new every morning. It is not too late to be the wife Ephesians 5 describes. It is not too late to be the mother Titus 2 envisions.
Happy Mother’s Day — and may God make you, by His grace, the godly woman He has called you to be.
In this message, Daniel Whyte III read his wife’s apology letter that she shared with him and the family on Father’s Day over a decade ago. Pastor Whyte encourages all Christian women who have not lived up to being a godly woman, wife, and mother to “Go and do thou likewise.” Feel free to use this letter as an example.
Lead up to the letter from Mrs. Meriqua Whyte:
Daniel Whyte III’s greatest blessing in this life is his “quiver full” of 10 children—Daniella (Danni), Daniel IV, Danita Evangeline, Danae Mary-Louise, Daniqua Grace, Danyel Ezekiel, Danyelle Elizabeth Breedlove, Danielle Tekeela, Duran-Daniel, and the first Daniel IV (deceased and in heaven with the Lord)—along with grandchildren and great-grandchildren.
Daniel Whyte III has been unblissfully but sexually satisfyingly married to his first and only wife, Meriqua Whyte of Christiana, Jamaica, for over 37 years since December 19, 1987. Jesus Christ said: “And a man’s foes shall be they of his own household.” Even though many evangelicals, charismatics, and Protestants try to act as if these words of Jesus Christ are not a reality in our modern Christianity—primarily because of the Satanic-driven prosperity gospel and an over-positive philosophy, which is a lie not based in reality or biblical truth—the words of Jesus Christ are true for every person who preaches the Gospel. The outcomes of the Gospel are a changed life and opposition from family, lukewarm Christians, Laodicean-Judas pastors and churches, the world, and the devil. This is a reality in our present evil world.
While Daniel Whyte III thoroughly enjoys his married life because he did not allow his wife to have her way at any point and was and is solidly and biblically the head of his household throughout the marriage—often quoting Joshua, “As for me and my house, we’re going to serve the Lord” “up in here!”—and because his wife never failed in the very important area of sex, which he got married for in the first place to avoid sinning against God, he has especially enjoyed the privilege and joy of raising his children in the Lord virtually by himself. He served the Lord with them every day of their lives, from the time they were born until they graduated from college, became adults, and moved on.
However, his wife, Meriqua Whyte—motivated by Satan, with a Pharaoh-style pride mixed with the well-known female Jamaican-style pride, stubbornness, rebelliousness, and witchcraft—has been his greatest Judas enemy in the world and has been what Paul spoke of: a “messenger of Satan” and a “thorn in the flesh.” Amazingly, and by the grace of God, that Satanic evil opposition has spurred Daniel Whyte III on to preach the Gospel probably more times than any man on record. God has honored him because he did not “hearken to the voice of his wife.” Whyte tells other Christian men to only hearken to the voice of God and Jesus Christ—not to their wives, as so many thousands of church men have been taught by pastors and other older men throughout the years. Remember, we are in this worldwide, multi-generational mess because Adam hearkened to the voice of his wife and not to the voice of God.
Before they were married, Daniel Whyte III told his wife Meriqua Whyte that they would not do family life as her parents did, because their married life was hellacious and ended in divorce, as did some of her other family members, including the aunt she was living with. He also told his wife they would not do family life as his parents did, because it was also hellacious and out of order since his mother was the head of the household, not his father. But thanks be to God, they never got a divorce. Whyte told his wife before they got married that they were going to do it God’s way according to Ephesians chapters 5 and 6, or no way at all. And then he asked his wife, “Are you willing to do marriage God’s way according to Ephesians chapters 5 and 6?” And she said yes. Whyte told her before they got married that if she did not live up to her end of the deal, all bets were off.
Because Daniel Whyte III’s wife, Meriqua Whyte, was so proud, unsubmissive, stubborn, and rebellious after they got married, God led him to read Ephesians chapters 5 and 6 every day in their family devotions throughout their marriage. In the first year of their marriage, Daniel Whyte III also gave his wife a list of verses for women from the Word of God for her to read, which she still reads to this day. He also bought her many books to read to help her be the wife God wanted her to be.
Whyte realized early in the marriage that his wife was not a born-again, saved person even though she lied and said she was before they got married. After over 37 years of marriage, she is still not saved, never bearing any fruit of a saved person, to the point of not even wanting to tell her children, “I love you” and not wanting to hug them when they were little children, even after her husband told her to do so. She also hated the daily family devotions that her husband led and tried to hinder them. She also demonically hated and tried to hinder every Gospel preaching service to this very day.
However, only by the grace of God, they are still married, and despite the devil constantly working through his wife to try to hinder him from preaching the Word of God, he is still preaching the Gospel and the Word of God live and on-demand. His ministry reaches over 148,800 people per month with over 21,000 unique views per month, reaching 149 countries, preaching the Gospel and the Word of God in 2 to 3 services a day, 7 days a week. Glory be to God!
Now the letter that shook up a Judas-Jezebel-Laodicean church:
Mrs. Meriqua Whyte’s Apology to her Husband and Their 7 Children for not Being a Biblical Woman, Wife, or Mother
Mrs. Meriqua Whyte, the Wife of Daniel Whyte III, Gave him the Best Father’s Day Gift Ever About 10 Years Ago When She Unexpectedly and Voluntarily Apologized for the First Time to Him and Their 7 Children for Not Being the Wife, Mother, and Christian Example of the Woman She Should Have Been Over the Past 37 Years of Marriage
Here is what Mrs. Meriqua Whyte wrote ten years ago after verbally apologizing to the entire family on Father’s Day, right before church service:
Over thirty years of marriage. Over thirty years of ups and downs. Over thirty years of trying to make our problems a personal thing between my husband and me. Thankfully, he did not allow me to do that and kept telling me it was between God and me—over thirty years of acting on my feelings and not on what the Bible says. Over thirty years of refusing to obey God’s simple command to a wife—to be obedient to your husband in all things. Over thirty years of disobedience, rebelliousness, stubbornness, lying, and dishonesty, all rooted in pride. Over thirty years of simply not choosing to mature as a Christian.
God has been dealing with me for over thirty years now about changing my attitude and behavior as a wife, which has manifested itself in disobedience, rebelliousness, stubbornness, lying, dishonesty, having an ungodly attitude and spirit, and simply not being the wife, mother, or example of a Christian woman that I should have been throughout the years. (By the way, for those of you who may be thinking that my disobedience, rebelliousness, stubbornness, lying, and dishonesty have resulted in adultery, I will say here that I have never committed any adultery or had sex with another man besides my husband, Daniel Whyte III, since I was born.)
God kept telling me I needed to stop my rebellious and stubborn behavior, apologize to my husband and children, and get my heart right with him, my husband, and my children. He sent others my way to tell me how to behave:
My husband, but I didn’t want to hear it from him
Other Christian women speakers
Other preachers
Books and other materials, but I would not take heed
I knew what to do, but I chose not to do it. The devil had me thinking and believing—as he is having a lot of wives and mothers think and believe—that your relationship with your husband and how you respond to him, whether positive or negative, will not affect your relationship with your children or your relationship with God. I say without hesitation that this is one of the devil’s lies, and sad to say, many wives and mothers are falling for this lie.
Another lie of the devil that Christian wives are falling for is that you can still have a strong relationship with God without being submissive to your husband. Lie! Lie! Lie! There is no truth to this. I know because I have experienced this and am still experiencing this as I am going through this breaking process, which is not happening overnight.
Even throughout my years of rebelliousness, stubbornness, and pride, I still kept praying the prayer I used to pray daily before I got married: “Lord, make me be exactly what You want me to be. Lord, break, make, and mold me into what you want me to be.” Well, God took that prayer seriously, and once you accept Him, He will begin the breaking process. It’s up to us how long that breaking process will take. For me, sad to say, it has taken over 30 years, and the breaking is not complete. In what way is God breaking me down right now? Well, our children have grown up. The three oldest have gone through and are still going through college, have gotten their degrees, and some are working on their second, third, and fourth degrees, launching their careers and moving out. God slapped me into reality and truly intensified the breaking process. My husband told me before our first child was born and repeatedly while the children were young that my job was to love our children and make positive memories with them and that if I did that, I would have a wonderful relationship with them as adults in the time to come. Well, I disobeyed God and my husband, who did not let up on his duties. And he has a wonderful relationship with our children, even the girls, and I don’t. However, God led me to finally break the day before Father’s Day, and while I was helping my husband get dressed to preach, I asked him if I could apologize to him and the entire family. That’s the first time I ever did that on my own. Throughout the years, he has always told me that I needed to get my heart right with God, him, and my children; otherwise, I would never have the joy and peace of the Lord in my life. However, I kept on lying and denying that I was the problem.
Here is what I said to my husband and children on Saturday afternoon, June 17, 2017, the day before Father’s Day. My husband told the entire family that this was the best Father’s Day gift I have ever given to him:
“Daddy, children, I apologize for not being the wife, mother, and example of a Christian woman I should have been throughout the years. I have shown nothing but pride, disobedience, rebelliousness, stubbornness, and a bad attitude and spirit toward God and my husband in front of you. My disobedience and rebelliousness have caused much unnecessary unrest and upheaval in the family. As my husband told me, things could have gone much better if I had obeyed God’s word from the beginning. Please accept my apology, and I am asking you to forgive me.”
The diminishing of peace and joy in my life throughout the years I brought on myself. Not having a proper relationship with God, my husband, and my children, I brought on myself—all because I chose the disobedient route. My number one desire is to live a life of peace—peace with God, my husband, and my children. I have learned that peace will not come as long as I live in disobedience, rebelliousness, stubbornness, and pride.
I will end this with two notes: (1) Happy Father’s Day to my husband: you have been a great husband and father. (2) Happy Children’s Day to my children: You all have been great children. I have no complaints whatsoever against my husband and, of course, children; you have never been at fault. My bad behavior is all on me, and I’m sorry I put you through this. May God bless your lives, and I love you.
Ephesians 5:22 - 6:20 (KJV)
Below is the passage in the Bible that Daniel Whyte III read in their family devotions every day for decades. It covers the biblical duties of the husband, the wife, and the children, and includes how to fight against the devil who is seeking to destroy the family.
22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.
23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.
24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.
25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
26 That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,
27 That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.
28 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.
29 For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:
30 For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.
31 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.
32 This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church.
33 Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.
6 Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right.
2 Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise;
3 That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth.
4 And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.
5 Servants, be obedient to them that are your masters according to the flesh, with fear and trembling, in singleness of your heart, as unto Christ;
6 Not with eyeservice, as menpleasers; but as the servants of Christ, doing the will of God from the heart;
7 With good will doing service, as to the Lord, and not to men:
8 Knowing that whatsoever good thing any man doeth, the same shall he receive of the Lord, whether he be bond or free.
9 And, ye masters, do the same things unto them, forbearing threatening: knowing that your Master also is in heaven; neither is there respect of persons with him.
10 Finally, my brethren, be strong in the Lord, and in the power of his might.
11 Put on the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil.
12 For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.
13 Wherefore take unto you the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand.
14 Stand therefore, having your loins girt about with truth, and having on the breastplate of righteousness;
15 And your feet shod with the preparation of the gospel of peace;
16 Above all, taking the shield of faith, wherewith ye shall be able to quench all the fiery darts of the wicked.
17 And take the helmet of salvation, and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God:
18 Praying always with all prayer and supplication in the Spirit, and watching thereunto with all perseverance and supplication for all saints;
19 And for me, that utterance may be given unto me, that I may open my mouth boldly, to make known the mystery of the gospel,
20 For which I am an ambassador in bonds: that therein I may speak boldly, as I ought to speak.
